Single Women’s Guide

Maybe HouseMatez sounded fun before you even fully understood what it was.

Good music. Hot crowd. Dancing. Private parties. Vegas weekends. Then you kept scrolling and realized oh… there’s a little more going on here.

And somehow that didn’t make you close the page.

So now you’re curious.

Maybe you’ve done something like this before. Maybe you’ve never even considered it. Maybe women are your thing, maybe men are your thing, maybe both are, or maybe you’re not looking for anything sexual at all and you just want to see what a HouseMatez party is actually like.

You don’t need to figure that out before you come.

And being a single guest doesn’t mean you have to come alone.

A lot of our single women come with friends. Honestly, it’s a great way to do your first HouseMatez. Get ready together, show up together, grab drinks, hit the dance floor and laugh about how nervous everybody was twenty minutes earlier. Having your people there can take some of the pressure off and make a completely new experience feel a whole lot more like a night out.

Other women come completely alone.

No partner. No friend group. No plan for how the night is supposed to go. They walk through the door knowing nobody and get to make the night entirely their own.

Both are HouseMatez.

Come with your best friend and spend half the night attached at the hip. Come with three girlfriends and take over the dance floor. Or walk in completely solo, meet whoever you want to meet, go wherever the night takes you and leave having had an experience that belonged completely to you.

That kind of freedom only works if you feel comfortable enough to actually enjoy it.

We curate the crowd. We control the ratio. Everyone inside is identified as an approved guest. Every event has onsite security, and the people running the party are actually paying attention to the room.

Not because we want HouseMatez to feel guarded or policed.

We want you to forget that it needs to be.

You should be thinking about the music, the people you’re meeting, whether you want another drink, who keeps catching your eye across the dance floor, and where the night might go next.

Not whether you made a mistake coming without somebody there to protect you.

Whether you arrive with five friends or completely by yourself, you should be able to make the night yours.

And remember: coming single doesn’t make you available. It doesn’t mean you’re looking for somebody. It doesn’t mean you’re interested in couples, men, women, or anybody else in the room.

It means you came to the party single.

That’s it.

So dress hot. Grab a drink. Find the dance floor. Meet people if you want to. Flirt shamelessly if you want to. People-watch. Make new friends. Kiss somebody. Don’t kiss anybody.

You don’t have to arrive with a plan.

Honestly, that’s part of the fun.

Fair question. 😂

HouseMatez deliberately maintains at least a 1:1 ratio of women to men. We can have more women than men at an event, but never more men than women.

That’s intentional.

We don’t want a room where every woman who walks onto the dance floor suddenly has six guys orbiting her. That’s not sexy, it isn’t fun, and it’s not the kind of environment we’re building.

Single-male availability is limited by the ratio, and our guest list is curated because who’s in the room changes the entire room.

Does that mean nobody will approach you?

Of course not.

People are probably going to talk to you. Somebody might flirt with you. Someone may tell you you’re gorgeous. A couple might think you’re exactly their type.

That’s part of being at a social, sexually open party.

But interest works both ways here.

You being there doesn’t mean you’re interested back.

You don’t owe somebody a conversation because they approached you. You don’t owe somebody physical attention because you danced with them. And you can be interested in one thing and decide you’re not interested in whatever comes next.

You should be able to enjoy being wanted without feeling like being wanted creates an obligation.

Everyone inside HouseMatez wears a wristband. No exceptions.

Couples wear pink. Singles wear blue.

You’ll be wearing blue.

The bands give everybody a little context and take some of the guesswork out of meeting people. They also allow our team and onsite security to know that everyone inside is actually supposed to be there.

But that’s all they tell you.

Pink doesn’t mean a couple plays together. It doesn’t mean they play separately. It doesn’t tell you whether either person is interested in women, men, both, or anybody at all.

And your blue wristband absolutely doesn’t mean available.

It means you came single.

If somebody wants to know anything else about you, they can ask.

And the same goes for you.

If you’re curious about somebody, talk to them. You don’t need to spend the night waiting for other people to make the first move.

See a woman you think is gorgeous? Tell her.

Keep making eye contact with somebody across the dance floor? Go say hi.

Curious about the couple you’ve been talking to for the last hour? Ask them about their dynamic.

You are allowed to choose here too.

Maybe you already know exactly what you like.

Great.

But maybe part of why you’re looking at HouseMatez is because you don’t.

Maybe you’ve always been curious about women but never actually done anything about it. Maybe you’ve wondered what being with a couple would feel like. Maybe you love attention. Maybe the idea of being watched is exciting. Maybe you don’t know what sounds hot until you’re actually standing in the room.

You don’t need to pick a category before you arrive.

Something can sound exciting and then not feel right when the opportunity actually presents itself. Something you never seriously considered might unexpectedly catch your attention.

Both are okay.

Curiosity isn’t a commitment.

Explore if you want to. Don’t if you don’t.

Every HouseMatez event has onsite security.

They’re not there to hover over you or make the party feel policed. They’re cool, approachable, and most of the time they’ll simply be part of the background.

But they’re there.

Our wristbands help us know everyone inside belongs there, and if somebody is making you uncomfortable, won’t take an answer, or something simply doesn’t feel right, you don’t need to spend your night managing it yourself.

Talk to us.

We want you worrying about what song is coming on next, not whether somebody is going to respect your answer.

That’s part of how we keep HouseMatez feeling as free as it does.

A really good party with considerably more possibilities than usual.

Maybe you dance until your feet hurt.

Maybe you make a group of friends you start going out with every weekend.

Maybe you meet somebody you can’t stop thinking about afterward.

Maybe you finally explore something you’ve wondered about forever.

Maybe you end up in the middle of a night you absolutely did not see coming when you were getting ready three hours earlier.

Or maybe you go home alone after an incredible night and decide you’ll see what happens next time.

You don’t need to know before you apply.

You don’t need to promise anybody anything when you arrive.

And you definitely don’t need to become somebody else’s fantasy just because you walked into HouseMatez alone.