Coming solo?
Maybe you found HouseMatez and had two thoughts at roughly the same time: “Holy shit, this looks fun” and “Wait… do single guys even go to these?”
Yes. Probably more than you think.
HouseMatez has huge appeal to couples who come together, but singles are a big part of the crowd too. You’re not going to be the random guy standing in the corner of a couples-only party wondering whether you missed something on the invitation. You’re coming to a nightclub-style party full of couples and singles who are there for the same reasons you are: good music, good people, flirting, dancing, meeting people and seeing where the night goes.
There is one thing you should know before you get too excited, though: single-guy tickets are intentionally limited.
The ratio matters.
HouseMatez maintains at least a 1:1 ratio of women to men. Always. We can have more women than men in the room, but we don’t allow it to go the other direction.
That means single-male ticket availability is tied to the guest list. As more women attend, more single-male spots can become available. Sometimes that means you’ll see a single-guy ticket sell out while other ticket types are still available.
Sorry, homie. That’s the way it works.
But when you walk into your first HouseMatez event, we think you’ll be pretty glad that’s the way it works.
Nobody wants a bro fest. Women don’t want to spend the night being surrounded every time they walk onto the dance floor, couples don’t want that energy around them, and you probably don’t want to compete with a room full of guys for the attention of five women either.
The ratio helps keep the room balanced, social and comfortable. It gives attraction and chemistry room to happen naturally instead of making the whole place feel like everybody showed up hunting for the same thing.
Pink or blue. That's all you know.
Everybody inside HouseMatez wears a wristband. No exceptions.
Couples wear pink. Singles wear blue.
It’s intentionally simple. The wristband gives you a little context about the person you’re talking to, takes some of the guesswork out of the room, and lets our team know that everyone inside is actually supposed to be there.
But don’t read anything into it that isn’t there.
Pink doesn’t tell you whether somebody plays with their partner, separately, both, or not at all. It doesn’t tell you what they’re into or who they’re attracted to. And blue sure as hell doesn’t mean available.
The wristband tells you how somebody came. If you want to know anything else, ask.
Seriously. Ask.
You don’t need to stand across the room trying to reverse-engineer somebody’s relationship from eye contact and body language. Talk to people. If you’re interested, communicate. If you’re talking to someone who came as part of a couple, be respectful of the fact that you’re stepping into a relationship dynamic you know nothing about until you ask.
A question isn’t creepy.
Not accepting the answer is.
Your access gets you into the party.
This is the part we’re very serious about.
Your HouseMatez access gets you through the door. It doesn’t buy anybody else’s body, attention, time, affection, or relationship.
A woman being at HouseMatez doesn’t mean she’s interested in you. A couple talking to you doesn’t mean they’re inviting you to join them. Dancing isn’t a promise of anything afterward, and somebody saying yes to one thing doesn’t mean they’ve said yes to the next.
HouseMatez can only be as open and uninhibited as we want it to be if everybody trusts the room. We don’t tolerate people who threaten that trust.
If somebody isn’t interested, that’s the answer. No pressure. No convincing. No repeatedly asking. No following somebody around hoping they’ll change their mind. And if somebody changes their mind after initially being interested, they’re allowed to do that too.
Every HouseMatez event has onsite security. They’re cool, approachable and mostly there in the background so everyone else can relax and enjoy themselves. But they’re also there to make sure the people inside belong there and that everybody feels safe. If somebody is making another guest uncomfortable or refusing to respect a boundary, we’ll deal with it.
We want you here.
We just expect you to be someone everyone else is glad we invited too.
Now stop overthinking it and come to the party.
You don’t need to walk around terrified of talking to women or couples. This is still HouseMatez. People flirt. People dance together. People tell each other they’re hot. People kiss. People hook up. You’re allowed to make the first move.
Just be a normal, socially aware guy.
Dress well. Smell good. Grab a drink. Hit the dance floor. Talk to people. Talk to couples. Talk to other singles. Make friends. If someone catches your attention, say hello. If there’s chemistry, enjoy it. If you’re unsure whether somebody wants you to kiss them, ask.
And don’t measure your night by whether you got laid.
Maybe you hook up. Maybe you click with a couple. Maybe you flirt with somebody all night and it doesn’t go anywhere until the next party. Maybe you meet a group of people you genuinely like and somehow find yourself splitting a Vegas cabana with them a month later. Or maybe you dance your ass off, meet some cool people and go home alone.
Those can all be great nights.
You’re not being invited as somebody’s third, and you’re not buying a guaranteed sexual experience. You’re being invited to a party with a deliberately balanced crowd, good music, attractive people and a whole lot more possibility than the average night out.
What happens after you walk through the door comes down to chemistry.
Bring good energy. Be somebody people want to party with.